8.17.2007

Love & '95 Dodge Neons


Last Saturday I finally met Bob Smith at the car repair shop where he works as service manager. His parents were related through marriage to my stepdad, and I'd had a couple of delightful conversations with his mother when she was still alive. I'd never met any of their children, though.

As a surprise gift my dad had decided to see if it was worth fixing my son's old car. It has almost 230,000 miles on it, so we certainly weren't sure. But he decided to invest some money and see if we could keep my son's wheels on the road a little longer. So my stepdad called Bob.

I stood there at the service counter with my son while Bob, a man close to my age in his 50s, dressed in dark blue overalls, busied himself with our paper work. I waited while he looked over the invoice and explained everything that had been fixed on the '95 Dodge Neon. There was a slight pause before he started to ring up the total, and I decided to speak into that pause.

"I just want you to know," I said, "that I liked your mother so much." Bob's business countenance disappeared, and in a split second his face registered pure joy. "She was so wonderful," he said. "As time goes on there aren't that many people who remember Mom, and it's so nice to hear someone say something about her."

My father died when I was 17 and occasionally through the years I've had people stop and tell me a story about him. I know from experience how wonderful that can be, especially when someone's been gone a long time. I knew before I went to get my son's car that I would mention this lovely lady to her son if the opportunity presented itself, and I'm so glad it did. I know my words to him were a gift, and the gift to me was seeing the love that flooded this man's face as soon as I spoke of his beloved mother.

7 comments:

Divorced Dad said...

thanks for sharing this anne. what crossed my mind after reading it is how every person we come across may simply be one expression of Love away from being awakened to God's Love for them. in this case, your words about his mother. seems like the status-quo flow keeps me locked in a me-focus, and the awareness of Love's presence opens my eyes to the value of others and the gift/opportunity of every encounter and interaction.

Keren said...

Anne... you are so Love!!!! So many love things in this blog.

Your words not only made memories come alive again for Bob (resurrection) but you also connected his deceased Mom to us here on earth right here and now (eternal life)

Also your son was with you, and he and Bob and anyone reading your blog, may be inspired to have the confidence to share memories, and love, and kindness with others and that empowers them to empower others, etc. etc. etc.

and bottom-line in my humble opinion, you have the grace-filled, God given ability to recognise Love in yourself!!!

Sharing the good news / the Love that has been given to you! That is what it is all about. IMHO. Amen!

Anne said...

Jim, I love what you said about how a person may be one expression of love away from being awakened to God's love for them. Love's presence does seem to open my eyes as well. I am more mindful of the other person, become more intentional of what I might say, how there might be a gift of beauty, joy, truth, love that flows into the encounter. That doesn't always happen, but it seems to increase as I decrease. (Did that make sense?)

Anne said...

Keren, I hadn't thought in the terms you used of resurrection and eternal life. Thank you for sharing those. It just feels so right when we speak out of Love, doesn't it? When I do, there's a feeling of this being the real me, this being the real world, sometimes a sense of the "thin places" - those realms I believe they talk about in Celtic spirituality where the spiritual and the natural worlds touch each other. Keren, thank you so much for always bringing such life, joy and Love into every conversation.

Darla said...

anne.... this was such a lovely story... i can hear your sweet, warm voice (the one i know from the phone), saying these kind loving words to this man.... and i can just imagine a part of him melting inside. God used you as a messenger of His Love... and i love that. He picked the perfect messenger...

Marilyn Ruth said...

Anne,

What a wonderful story. It reminds me of my aunt Josephine (my dadÅ› sister) who wrote this wonderful letter to all of my siblings on mother´s day about my mother.

I need to call Aunt Jo.

Thank you again!

Anne said...

Darla, that was so sweet of you to say God picked the perfect messenger. Every day I am challenged by that "false self" of mine. But sometimes we're blessed with God/Love speaking through us, aren't we?

Marilyn, what a beautiful gift your Aunt Jo gave you. Those are those priceless things we treasure forever. I know when you call her, you'll be giving her that gift back again.